My son is 14 and we were very close, We use to talk about everything, now He won't talk about himself. He will answer any question I ask but he won't volunteer any information. When I ask him how was school or what's going on with him, he always answer "Good and nothing much". It's like pulling teeth, also when I start asking questions about him like who's calling on the cell phone, his reply is no body important or some girl. Now if it is one of his buddies he would say their name. I have to ask him the name of the girl and if that's a girlfriend or friend. He don't talk to his father, he says he father's way of thinking is different then his (his father is from
Hello, Sweetheart, Sounds like to me you’re getting a crash course in what it feels like to raise a young man. I really don’t think you have anything to worry about, being that he does talk to someone at least. When I was a teenager I didn’t talk to my mother either. Partly because I just didn’t think she could even begin to understand what it was like being me. You see that’s where being a parent and being a friend are somewhat difficult. Your son sees you as a disciplinary, where from the sounds of things he kinda views your best friend as someone that he can talk to. Don’t feel bad or nothing like you aren’t doing your job as a parent, just take a moment and step back and examine the situation from afar. What is it about his aunt that makes him comfortable enough to where he can somewhat open up to her and not you. Does she question him…does she laugh when he shares things or does she judge hi.? Being that he’s a teenager it’s probably because she comes off real easy going and has a friend like personality about her. Growing up there was one of my grandmother’s best friends that I always found myself talking to about what was going on in my life. Although I didn’t share the really fucked up shit that I was enduring in school, I was sharing things that I didn’t share with the two women that was raising me. I didn’t have a father nor a father figure growing up, where at least your son does. Parents don’t realize it but kids study our behavior more than they know. The reason that your son feels like his father won’t understand him is because he has watched and listened to his dad so long over the years that he has concluded that dad is just dad. Dad is from another planet altogether (lol). Teens fail to realize that just because their parents are older (or from another country) doesn’t mean that they don’t understand what’s going on today. The Bible states clearly that there is nothing new under the sun. I don’t have children but from what I see of today’s youth I believe that if parents want to reach there kids they are going to have to do it early in life, before society has a chance to raise them for you. In conclusion: For you to even write me about this situation shows that you are a concerned parent, and trust me that’s miles ahead of some of these parents in the world. From what you are saying it sounds like you are really making an effort to reach out to your son, but here’s what you need to do different. Instead of questioning him like he’s in some interrogation room under a hot lamp, you need to get him to want to talk to you. Get him to see that although mom is mom, she still kinda cool in that old sorta way (lol). You’re already in the right neighborhood, however, try showing him a different side of his mom. Show him the hip side of mom without seeming like you have an ulterior motive. Surprise him one evening by going out for a movie after dinner…and seeing something that he wants to see. Find slick and round about ways to question him without questioning him. Physiologist use similar tactics all the time. And I know it will be hard but no questions and no weird looks when his cell phone rings. You want him to feel like trust him. Although as a concerned parent if you feel that he may be doing something that he has no business doing then by all means, do whatever is necessary to find out what. Do it without him finding out…but do it. Sometimes I look back on my life and wish like hell someone would have came up to my school, behind my back, and did some snooping. Maybe then I wouldn’t have had to go through some of the shit I went through. God bless!
Well, basically he is not willing to give up something materialistic that will help us get ahead short term. WHICH WE NEED. He WILL/CAN NOT let go of the material! He said "It's his Pride." He said "It's a work in progress. He is working on it." (his PRIDE) We have lost so much already that I don't think there is much more to lose. I guess I am at my limit. I am confused with " being a good Christian wife" and being there through thick and thin and saying enough is enough. That killed me when he said that crap. It made me feel like something materialistic is more important than family (wife, son). I was so mad this morning I was speechless not just because of this but other financial issues that arose this morning. I just hung up and I realized while driving to work this AM I cannot talk to him because I am so angry.
We are in the financial crisis of our life and he won't give up a car that doesn't even work. The payment is killing us and that's if we can afford it that month.
Hey, Melissa,
Ok I’ve read both of your emails and now have a better idea as to what’s going on. Some men’s pride is so unbendable that even under the most extreme circumstances they won’t budge, which sucks if you happen to be the significant other that has to deal with them on a daily basis. I admit that as a man even I have some pride, however, I do know when enough is enough. My wife is so supportive in my endeavors that I would never let my pride stand in the way if it came down to or survival. That’s actually what’s going on now with your husband…he’s not seeing the BIG picture here. This isn’t about him being a failure, it’s about sacrificing for the needs of his family. Part of the reason he’s not giving in could be because you’re the one trying to get him to do it. I know that sounds messed up, because you’re his wife, but I bet if another man that he trusts, or just someone else he trusts in general talked to him it might get through. Believe me I understand about setting goals and not reaching them in the timeframe that you may have planned. But hey, that’s life, isn’t it? I think you are correct to be upset; however you blowing up at him (or walking away) won’t do either of you or your family any good. For me, nothing means more than knowing that I’m not a failure in my wife’s eyes. She encourages me daily to strive for my goals and that’s all I ask for. Like your husband some of my goals also never came to pass and that shit really hurt, but I had to pick myself up and push on. My wife, friends and family couldn’t do that for me—just God. The only thing you can do for your husband is ensure him that he is not a failure in your eyes and that no matter what you got his back. Most men hate to feel like they are being forced to conform to a standard or forced to part with a prized possession. Look at his car like an old sweater or article of clothing that you have in the back of your closet that you know needs to be given to the Salvation Army, yet for some reason you can’t bring yourself to let it go. Now you know you’re never going to wear that sweater, shit you probably can’t even fit it anymore, but you tell yourself that you might one day. Same thing with your husband. Trust me, he knows that he needs to part with that car just as much as you do; he just needs to feel like its ok to do so. I hope that makes sense.
In conclusion: I think you should sit down and have another talk with your husband, except this time you do all the talking. Try telling him that you understand how he feels and then let him know how much you still and always will believe in him. Try focusing on all the things he has accomplished instead of the goals he has not. Tell him that his goals are only unattainable when he stops believing that he can obtain them. Being that a child is in the equation it’s more important than ever that something gives. How do I get over this guy?
Okay, If you don't mind I need some advice on how to move on. The guy was my first everything. We started off best friends. We were dating for 8 months. He still wants to be my friend and I want to be his but I think he's making a huge mistake. I mean, I am everything he wants; he has even helped me along the way to become a better person. It's just that he has these depression issues where he will push everyone away and break up with me. We have gone through several breakups and all that we were able to work out but this was the last one. I really don't want to break up I truly love him and I don't want to see him get hurt because he seems to be attracted to woman that will cheat, use, and mentally abuse him. I'm not a mean person but I am willing to kick some ass for him. hehe*. What do you recommend me doing. I am going on a trip for 3 weeks in a couple of days do you think the time will help with his decision? I don't know. His brother say's just give him time and he will be wanting you back. Who knows? I am lost; he's like a woman sometimes. Unpredictable and emotional. Javon64 My recommendation to you is that you step away from this situation and give this man a chance to miss you. It’s true that absence does make the heart grow fonder. The best thing you have going for you is that you and him were best friends before you became romantically involved. The worst thing you could do for yourself is try and force him to be with you while he’s in this confused state. Sometimes we have to let people make their own mistakes in life, regardless how clear we see the mistake they’re about to make. That doesn’t mean abandon the people that we love it just means giving them room to grow and discover what we already know. Only then can a person truly appreciate you for all the wonderful things you bring to the table. My advice is that you don’t pressure this man. Instead just do you for a while and though it may be hard, pretend that he doesn’t even exist. When he wants to talk he will reach out to you, however, until that happens just bite your tongue and show him that you can move on. Better yet…find you someone to date and don’t withhold it from him. Sometimes the best medicine for a guy like that is seeing his ex has truly moved on. God bless! Is He Gay or Bi? |
Ok J, me and my fiance were talking last night about older men turning young boys out by using money and other things. For instance, I have a cousin who is bi (I say gay but this is his claim). Anyway, he loves young boys. He's 27 and he normally catches guys when they're about 16. He finds the ones who are starving. In other words, a lot of them come form poorer backgrounds; mother has a lot of kids, live in the housing development, etc... and they want nothing more than everything they see in the videos. He then begins a friendship with them, hanging out with them, buying them liquor and greenery, being their best man, ya' know. Then slowly he reels them in, new shoes, cash in pocket, a 'fit or two. Before they know it, they're boning him whenever he needs it. Now a couple of these boys have gotten older and started dating girls and claim they don't want to be that way anymore. However, their greed takes over and occasionally they sneak off and hit it for some extra things here and there. Well these same boys only tend to be messing around with him when they get older other than that strictly girls. These guys are not claiming gay because that’s not how they see it. The reason we were talking about this is because my fiance has a friend in the same situation but the opposite end of it. He’s the one who’s been took care of. He tries to move and get away from this guy and even recently moved in with a girl he was with. But it seems like he can't leave the older guy alone (or his uncle as he tells his homies). He says he’s not gay, he says he knows its not right, but yet he’s been messing with this guy for cash since he was 16 himself. Now of course this is wrong on both my cousin’s part and the receiving end. My hating is, they get these guys when their hormones are raging, their pockets are tight, and they really don’t know what they want. So are these guys truly gay, bi, or what. Let me sum it up, if they only mess with one guy, the same one who manipulated them since younger years, and other than that all they like is girls and have relationships with them, what do you consider them? I find myself jumping opinions on this one. Of course they have some tendencies but at the same times, they've kinda been molested in a way. So if they leave these older men alone and become self sufficient and only date women, are they still bi? I don’t know.....do you get my question on this one?
Javon64
Let me just say that this is a DAMN GOOD QUESTION. For a question like this I think the best thing to do is answer this question according to the man’s dick. While I’m certainly no rocket scientist, I speak for myself when I say that my dick has never gotten hard for just any damn body. There has to be some sexual attraction to start my blood flowing towards the clouds (lol). Now whether a man says that he’s banging the lining out of another man’s asshole for money or material possessions his dick still gets hard enough to do the job. I do, however, think that it’s FUCKED UP that there are men in the world that would target young boys and rob them of the opportunity to make the choice for themselves. It’s really no different than crack. I know more than a few people that I grew up with in the hood that are strung out on drugs now, all because someone slipped some crushed up cocaine in their weed. That’s how DMX got so fucked up on drugs, someone slipped him some shit. With a question like this I think it’s easy to give someone the benefit of the doubt because they may only engage in bisexual sex sparingly. If the incident only happen one time then one could say that it was just an experiment, and they don’t roll like that. But in cases where it’s an ongoing thing—money or not—we have to ask ourselves if somewhere within that person lies an undercover urge of some sort. The way I see it is if you’re gay or bi that’s your business, just don’t lie to yourself.
Your fiancé’s friend is dealing with a powerful past demon. I can clearly understand the internal conflict he has warring inside him. It’s really unfair that he has to wrestle against something that he doesn’t quite understand. He’s dealing with sexual urges that were forced on him and the thing what’s fucking with his head the most is that he no doubt enjoys the sex with that older man. For a situation like this he might actually have to seek professional help, because I think this is allot bigger than money or material possessions.
God Bless!
Is it horrible to webcam your sex?
Is it horrible to webcam your sex? That was always a kinda fantasy of mine and recently the opportunity presented itself. Now, I'm not completely uninhibited so it's not like I got in front of my webcam butt-ass naked and started fucking my brains out, but I had it set up for a while, and one night, late, it just happened. I was online, innocently checking email and the like while everyone was asleep. When I was done I started surfing the net, this and that, and (of course!!) ended up looking at porn. After a little bit of Hennessy, it just happened. I had already checked this particular site out a few times before, just as a voyeur. Watching some of that shit made me so hot and wet I couldn't help but to reach down and get myself off! This night though, I went a little farther and turned my own cam on. It was fantastic...actually, my first experience with cybersex, not to mention putting my pussy on the 'net! I got into it kinda quick and apparently made a little too much noise, because my man woke up and came out to see what was up. When he saw me spread-eagle in the chair in front of the camera with my fingers in my pussy he (more alert than I when woken up out of a sound sleep!) strode up to me, grabbed a fistful of my hair and put a hand around my neck and demanded to know what I was doing. Not really knowing what to say, I know I stammered and stuttered like an idiot for a bit. Without listening to my excuses he drew me up, turned me around and forced me back on the chair on my knees and then fucked me from behind. After I came, he knelt down and sucked my pussy dry...then started again. Talk about a fantasy come true!!!
Confiding this (and the next few episodes) to some close friends, I've received nothing but negative responses. Mostly regarding us doing our business on camera for the world to see. I don't think this is wrong, but...has anyone else had repercussions from this kind of situation? If so, I'd like to know! It's getting kind of addicting...
JAVON/
Now you’re talking my kinda shit. Voyeurism is my favorite kinda sex because it’s so real and unscripted. Those very negative responses that you received are the very reason that there are so many closet freaks in the world today. I wouldn’t be surprised if those same folks that judged what you and your man chose to do in the privacy of your own home have some skeletons in their closets as well. The only difference between you and them is that they keep their shit hush-hush and wouldn’t dare share some of their shit. And if you ask me there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s ludicrous to think for one second that everyone (and yes even our own friends) are as open, outspoken and uninhibited as Javon64 and his sexual blog rebels. Hell, how many times do you think I’ve been laughed at or criticized for kink of sniffing women’s funky feet? But you see that’s MY kink. You don’t see me trying to force my kink down the throats of anyone, and you never will because I understand that just because one person enjoys bungee jumping doesn’t mean the next person does. What I have a problem with (and I’m sure I don’t just speak for myself) is people trying to pass judgment on others for the way they want to live their life. The funny hypocritical shit that I find about such people is that some of the very ones that gave you shit about your web sex would probably be the first ones to sneak off and download your video on the sly. Although they’d never admit it, most of them admire and even envy such sexual freedom because deep down they wish they had the courage to do something as bold. Babygirl, it takes a special breed of person to be able to own up and embrace his or her inner sexual kinks, without looking down or being judgmental on someone else for there’s just because it’s a little weird or different. Sad to say but that’s just the world that we live in and it will never change. To a certain degree the subject of sex will always be taboo. There is truly nothing wrong or crazy about what you and your man are doing (only wrong if I don’t get the web address…lol) because you both get enjoyment out and are not harming anyone. The only thing to consider with sexual acts of that nature is your future occupation. I wouldn’t try running for president or doing any jobs that are going to put you in the public’s eye (other than porn lol) with videos of my ass all over the internet. In addition, if you have kids that use the computer I’m sure you don’t want them to accidentally stumble upon Mommy and Daddy: Freak Nation Volume one.(lol)
My final verdict: Live your life, lil lady. If broadcasting yo naked ass all over the internet for pervs like me to see and enjoy is what gets you off then so be it. To stop all because your friends don’t find it appealing would be doing yourself and your man a big disservice. Remember, God just because God created us all equal doesn’t mean that we all share the same sexual desires!
God bless!
His Dick is Too Small To Do it Doggy?
I have a few questions I want to ask you and please be honest about your answers.
First of all I love my boyfriend, he’s a great man. he’s honest, kind, helpful, generous and handsome, everything a good man should be, right? But there are a few things that I don’t understand...
We talked about getting an apartment together—even went as far as to go to the bank for pre approval. We decided we wanted to wait a lil bit to get some bills paid off and such, however now, all of a sudden he doesn’t want to buy a house anymore, he says because he doesn’t want to live in this
Next, we have also talked about marriage, he even asked me to wear his great grandmother's old wedding ring, but lately when I bring the subject up he avoids the conversation, why?
He buys nice things for my kids but I don’t see him loving them, how can I fix that?
Lastly, he is very loveable, to me anyway…like when we’re in bed he can go down on me and it fells great. However he's not packing much in his Johnson area—I know I can’t change that but how do I adjust to it, because I love to do it doggy style but we can’t cause he's not long enough.
Javon64/
Hello, sweetheart,
Thanks for having the courage to send me such a personal email question. I know how hard it must have been for you to confront these issues you’ve been dealing with, however by confronting these types of issues you are taking the first step to conquer them. Now let’s get started.
From reading your first and second question I get the feeling that your boyfriend might have a sure case of cold feet. This is very common in males of all ages. You may not think so but to most men, taking such a big step as purchasing a house with a female that he isn’t married to yet is pretty much like signing the marriage contract in blood. Most men (and women) like to know that there is an OUT CLAUSE if they so happen to want to change their mind. The longer you guys take to walk down that aisle and say those vows the more time he has to second guess his life changing decision. Now this is not to say that he loves you any less—he’s just probably afraid of giving up his freedom that’s all. Especially if half of his friends are single and loving it life. Most women don’t understand that because from an early age they are pretty much taught to find a husband, buy a home with a white picket fence and dog and live happily ever after. When it comes to marriage more men wind up saying, “Fuck it,” and giving in than those that readily conform. I don’t get the feeling that this man doesn’t want to be with you—he just may not be quite ready to make such a big commitment as buying a house together. Besides that I’m pretty sure someone (friends maybe) has probably told him to be sure before crossing over the line of no return. Form the sounds of things him saying that he doesn’t want to live in that city forever is the best way he can tell you that he isn’t ready. You should actually be glad that he said anything at all…I know a bunch of guys that would have just gotten ghost and would have had you putting out a missing person report on them (lol). If you want my advice I’d say don’t pressure him…the average man will give in and do just about anything you want…as long as he thinks he’s in control and the one ultimately making the decision.
As for the question about getting him to love your kids—for this you need to let nature take its course. To tamper any way whatsoever in this natural bonding process would mean that the love is fabricated. In the grand scheme of things you don’t ever want to look back on this and say that I did such and such to make this man love my kids, just as you’d never want to say I had to do such and such to get this man to love me. Love isn’t a wild animal to be captured, fore when it is it will remain wild and untamable. However if you let love just take its own course and come to you the chances of it staying are much greater. I hope I didn’t lose you back there.
Now as for this third question, which is a good one even for me. This is actually the first time I’ve heard of a man not being long enough to do it doggy style. Being that doggy style is the preferred position for women to really feel the penetration I can understand where this could be a BIG problem. Not to mention that 9 out of 10 men prefer doggy over all other positions and I’m led to believe that you’re not the first woman to go without in the bedroom department. I’m more than positive that he’s aware of his shortcomings, which is why he is so efficient in other areas of love making…i.e. eating pussy. What I love about your email is that not once did you hint at stepping out on this dude because of the equipment he was dealt at birth. Because of your willingness to look past this hindrance I have no doubt that you guys can learn to explore other things in the bedroom to feel that empty space between your thighs. Although this is a sensitive subject if I was in your man’s position I would want my girl to come to be and level with me. I mean it’s not like he’s unaware or it’s some big secret that his Johnson is short. Every man knows if his Johnson is up to par for his woman in the bedroom, trust me. Believe me when I say that if you can get this man to open up to you about his manhood…or lack thereof, it will DEFI
Older women and younger me...is it wrong?
Email:I just took a guy 'round the world this evening and we both had a fantastic time...he likes being deep in my throat and everywhere else-lol. Frankly, when I think about him I can't think about anything else. Sounds good, right? Here's the problem-he is 12 years my junior. I don't know what to do with it.
I've heard all about us older women preying on younger men-I think we're called cougars-but that is not how it happened at all. He pursued me and I tried like hell to run him off. Tonight I discovered why I wouldn't lie and tell him I never wanted to see him again...
Javon64/
HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL NAW it's not bad for an older woman to be with a much younger guy. Men do the shit all the fucking time and from what I understand being with a younger person keeps the relationship lively and energetic. However the jury is still out on that one because my wife is 10 years younger than me and I'm the lively, energetic one in this relationship.
Ok now that the PG portion of the coversation is out the way it's time to get rated x!
Some of the BEST sex I've ever had in my entire fucking life has been with older women. For starters experience has taught me that the older a woman gets the more inhibitions she begins to let go of allowing the real freak to take full control. You'll probably never hear that Javon64 has been turned the fuck out...however I've been with quite a few older women that did a damn good job cumming close.
Anyone that has ever read Over Forty and Addictive, knows how HOT a sexual encounter between a younger man and older woman can be. But what a lot of you don't know is that when I wrote that story I was basing it off a real encounter I had with a woman that was 10 years older than me, which makes that story 80 or 90% true. And just wait until y'all read part 2 in The Chapters of Ecstasy!
I personally swear by sex with older women because older women aren't afraid to get nasty with it...at least some of you anyway. There are those older women that are so stuck in their ways that missionary style sex is the only position they know, and getting them to say something raunchy during sex is like pulling teeth. So I guess I should say I'm a fan of sex with older women that have truly let their inner freakdom (WORD CREATION ALERT) take over. There is actually this one older woma nthat I was with that lives in Detroit that my blackass have not been able to shake from my memory. I mean this woman had some serious go...with FREAK just oozing from her pores. I remember the shit like it was yesterday. The first time we had sex we were riding around town in her car and out the blue she just took my black ass to the hotel. Once there my dick practically beat me in the room...well it technically did beat me in the room because it was so hard that it crossed the threshold of the door before I did. Anyway after getting inside the room homegirl stripped down and didn't ask...TOLD me to eat her pussy, and just like a good little doggy I was all in, face first.
I'm telling you...I almost came just from sucking on that juicy snatch. I sucked everything from her inner thigh to her pussy and asshole so long and good that she practically had to pry me off her shit with a crowbar. Oh...and best believe that her feet had a pungent stink to 'em. She had been wearing pantyhose all day just like I like, therefore when I sniffed their erotic funk it immediately sent a tingle to my erect dick. Needless to say, after all that I fucked that woman so long and hard that her pussy was sore for the rest of the week.
The memories I have...
How to deal with a limp dick?
I've probably already mentioned on your blog that I've been with a lot of men (like 100-200, somewhere in there I lost count). I've been seeing this new guy, but this is a new one on me. He loves giving oral (badly - I can't tell him yet, but I plan to if he intends to stick around), but I haven't been able to give him so much as a decent hand job. Fucking? Forget about it. He hasn't gotten completely hard in any of the four times we've been together.
Now my mind is racing: either a) he has a hard time maintaining an erection; b) he gets distracted easily or c) I repulse him in some way. I don't think it's c) because he keeps asking to come back.
It could also be d) guilt, because he's a good Catholic boy and we're not engaged or married - but that just seems so far out in left field I can't imagine it.
So my question is: how do I bring this lack of fucking up with him, in a way that won't create too much awkwardness? My usual thing is to joke about heavy matters, but I don't think a good laugh about a soft dick would help things.
Going back to my cold shower now.
Javon64
This is actually a good question, because this sort of thing happens to men more than you think. As a matter of fact it has happen to my ass more than a few times. Ok here’s what I think is going on. Correction…here’s what I know is going on. For some reason this new guy you are dealing with is a little intimidated by you. The way he goes deep sea diving on you and stays down long enough to kick the bucket from drowning is a dead giveaway. You see by giving you head for countless hours he’s buying his cock some time (and praying to God) to get a stiff erection. Trust me, you don’t have to tell him anything because he’s well aware that his sex ranking is steady declining with each encounter. If you’ve ever told him how many men you’ve had in the past that could be a big reason he’s intimidated (especially if you told him how big their dicks were). The reason he keeps coming back has everything to do with him hoping to God Almighty that he can redeem himself. The sad thing about that is that with each time that he comes up short….mentally he begins to doubt himself more and more. As for the whole Catholic boy thing……..scratch that off the list. That has nothing to do with it at all. Trust me sweetheart…next to castration, the biggest fear of any man is a limp dick. Now you might want to also consider the possibility that he has a slight case of erectile dysfunction. ED effects more and more men these days………however I don’t think that’s what he has. Whatever you do…don’t question him about it because that will only make it worse. Believe me, he knows and right this minute is probably hold a hold match to his dick as punishment for it not showing up to the big game. Lol
Now if you must bring it up to him I suggest you wait until you try these few tips first.
- Have a little alcohol the next time you guys get ready to have sex. A little booze always shakes the inhibitions and fear off.
- While you’re sucking him off (make sure he’s drunk) play with his asshole with you finger to see it that wakes up his cock. Being that the mans G-SPOT is in the rectum that should get a MAJOR rise out of his dick. And no that doesn’t mean he’s gay if he likes it. People kill me. Lmao
Now if those two things don’t work (and I’m sure they should) then I think it’s either time to have a talk.
God Bless!
The lone of my life left me again? The love of my life left me "again". This time he told me that he was breaking up with me because he had "feelings" for his boss. He said it felt like cheating when he was slowly trying to get to know her. Who leaves the person they love for someone they like? Sorry to hear about what you’re going through, sweetie. Breakups of any kind can be a draining experience emotionally. What I think is going on here is that the well has run dry as far as the two of you are concerned. Sweetheart, even if he did make up and excuse to break up with you (and he probably did) just know that he did you a big favor. I personally don’t believe in the whole on and off thing as far as relationships go. That type of stuff has always been so yoyo for me to tolerate. The way that I see it is we’re either going to be together or not. All that up and down stuff is just a couple’s way of avoiding the inevitable…that maybe we should quit fooling ourselves and just go our separate ways. It does you no good if you’re the only one that even wants the relationship. Why fight to hold on to someone that don’t want to be held. I think you or anyone else in this type of situation deserves better. I want you to think about something for a quick second, my dear. Let’s just say for the heck of it that your man is lying about wanting to get to know his boss, intimately. What kind of man would say such a thing to the woman that he’s supposed to have feelings for. I mean can you say anything more hurtful. This just tells me (and should tell you) that he truly doesn’t want to be with you any longer. That may be hard to digest, I know….but if he’s that cold of a person then you’re probably better off. As for him not being hurt by anything that you say, look at it like this. How bad would you be hurt by someone that you don’t care about? Probably not much at all! My opinion: He probably does have a thing for his boss, however that’s not the reason he broke up with you. To break up with someone you have to belong to that person, and for some reason I don’t think you ever really had him. Now it’s quite possible that he does indeed love and care for you—I just don’t think he’s in love with you. My advice: Let him go and don’t look back. And if for some reason that he does come back…don’t give him the time of day. Remain friendly (that hurts him more) but let him know that you’ve moved on. You truly do deserve better.\ God Bless! O.k...me and my man are doing good. I love his fam and they love me ( at least I thought they did). After getting to know his brothers...I really got attached to them. It just feels nice to be loved by your mate’s family members. Till......I happened to find some time to spend with my man...like almost everyday at the crib...and every day I got rude comments like" don’t u got a home?" or sometimes I wouldn’t even get a hello. Some days we'll even end up in an argument. It got to the point where I just hate them. Question one: Hello, lil lady and thank you for writing. Now as for your first question goes…yes a person’s family can destroy your relationship. However first it depends how much your partner values their family’s opinion to begin with. Take me for instance. I love my family (and friends) to death and have always respected their opinions highly, however when it comes to my relationships, I’ll hear them out, but that’s all. I’ve never even liked getting involved with women that let their family’s opinion dictate whether or not they stayed with someone. Reason being is because in situations like that it’s like you’re in a relationship with both your partner and their family. Let’s face it…no matter what a person does or how great a person is…some families just don’t (and won’t) ever care for them. Sweetie, the only thing you can do in this situation is continue being you and treating your man the way you know how. If he let’s his family’s opinion or dislike for you destroy what y’all have…then it wasn’t much no way. As for the part about them saying sly remarks about you being at their place all the time, put yourself in their shoes. What if you had a sister and every time you looked up your sister’s man was over…eating up all the food…drinking up all the Kool aid (lol)? You’d be a little annoyed as well. Maybe not enough to pick a fight or verbalize it; however some people are more outspoken than others. I was just messing with you on the eating and drinking stuff, but you get my point, right. And besides……why yo man at the crib anyway. This is exactly why a man needs his own space. If he had his own apartment you wouldn’t even have to deal with that shit, but it is what it is. Everyone can’t afford to get their own spot right away so I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt. Though this should be an incentive for him to get the ball rolling or something. But I forgot…he cheap, right? lmao Question 2: Now for the notorious question two. Here’s where I have to draw the line, lil lady. I don’t feel NO man should have to buy a woman a bunch of pricy gifts and pay her bills, regardless how much money he has. For starters he earned that money, not her. If she’s healthy and mentally capable of pulling her own weight then that’s what she needs to be doing. Most of these high paid celebrities that go around doing that type of thing are extremely insecure. They feel that by buying a woman the world they are buying her love and affection, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Money doesn’t buy love, happiness, or an orgasm…unless you’re a prostitute, then it doesn’t count (lol). Reading over your question I don’t get the feeling that your man is cheap. Frugal maybe…but not cheap. Also…after reading the list of material items that you said you would like for a man to buy you, not once did you say what you were willing to do in return. A relationship is 50/50 no matter how you cut it, however in this particular situation I find myself asking the question…what are you doing that is so spectacular that it warrants all of his money to be spent on you. I hear women say all the time that since they give their man ass, they are entitled to him blowing his hard earned money on them. Correct me if I’m wrong but doesn’t it take two to tangle in the sack (I’m straight with a pillow and a porno lol). Call me crazy but for the life of me I cannot recall the exact day and time that a hard dick declined in value (lol). I hope you don’t think I’m jumping on you, lil lady, I’m just airing things from my perspective. Now if I’m reading this correctly your man still lives at home with his family, which suggests that money is tight. With that being said I understand why he would want to count his pennies. But being perfectly real with you…there are plenty of men out there that will gladly do all of these things for you and more…but that doesn’t mean that they will love you. Again, most men (and women) that are willing to do these types of things are really insecure on the inside. Believe it or not they believe that their money holds more value than they actually do. They will spend that money on you but…but nine times out of ten they won’t (or can’t) give you the tender loving affection that you need. Trust me, consider yourself blessed that you can honestly say that you are attached to your man, and not because of what he buys you. Sweetie, you can’t put a price tag on that kind of attraction because it’s worth so much more than a material possession. Real Talk: If something like this breaks the two of you up, then you aren’t as attached to your boyfriend as you would like yourself to believe. This is actually part of the reason a lot of men that get rich go back to their past to find the girl that was with them before the riches. Ok, Javon, I have been experiencing something’s lately in my sex life. I am married as you should already know, and this guy that I have been Ms. Lady…sounds like to me that you done fucked around and found my twin brother (lol). Finally a question with the ability to make my tongue erect. Babygurl, tossing salads is what I consider to be a freak art that needs to be channeled rather than learned. Being that it is such a taboo/NASTY sex act you must first find it in yourself to not only want to do it…but crave to do it. For starters you need to try and mentally discard what you know the anus is used for and think of it as another sensitive pleasure spot on a man’s body. Now I’m not gone even try to tickle your clit, everyone doesn’t have the stomach put their tongue on raw butthole, let alone thrusting it deep inside, which happens to be my FAVORITE kink. That’s why for people like yourself, I suggest you dress it up a bit (or season it) with a flavor that you enjoy, like chocolate syrup (bad choice, I know lol), whip cream, or like Chris Rock would say, jelly. I truly believe that after you get into it, and see how stimulating it is to your partner, it will make you actually begin to enjoy it. Come to think of it, what I have always loved most about tonguing a woman’s asshole is her response to it. I have yet to meet a woman that has turned down a good ass eating because they can’t get anything out of it (wouldn’t you agree?). My dear it’s very apparent from your email that you have been turned out on so many freaky levels. I wish every woman could experience a true NASTY experience in the bedroom, because like you, it will just make them want to reciprocate the nastiness. My answer: There is no special technique to licking ass, just know that the deeper you can push your tongue the more amazing it feels. For a beginners such as yourself I would suggest that you start by fanning the tip of your tongue around the opening of the asshole real lightly. Do that while sucking your partner’s dick to intensify the sensation. If you take my advice and do this a couple of times, you’ll be tongue-fucking your partner’s asshole in no time flat. And whatever you do…try not to gag or make it seem that you are disgusted by what you are doing. Nothing is more unarousing than making it evident that you would rather be someplace else, while you’re suppose to be getting your partner off. Also…add a little wine to the party to shake your confidence up a bit. You might also want to dim the lights down as far as you can without making it pitch dark. I’d hate for you to think you are tonguing his ass when you’re really tonguing his navel (lol). As for the lack of confidence when it comes to riding a guy, more than likely that’s due to a self-esteem issue you have deep rooted inside you. You see, in the riding position all attention and control is shifted over to you, and for whatever reason that’s where your confidence takes a nosedive. In this position you lose confidence because you feel as if your partner is grading you or critiquing your performance when that couldn’t be further from the truth. What I suggest you do to get over that is deem the lights down a bit, and when you’re on top take your partner’s hands and place them on your hips and tell him that you want him to guide you in the directions that feel good to him so that you can make him feel good. Nothing will uplift your confidence like knowing without a doubt that you are riding him like he likes. Also get virbal with him while you’re humping and grinding away up top. Tell him to tell you the way he likes that pussy and I gurantee that you will have him jazzing in no time! God bless! I have been dating this guy for a little while now and I have some concerns...i wanted to know is it just me!? Sweetheart, this is much bigger problem than a mere, childish, temper tantrum. It’s also larger than a mild case of a man behaving selfishly. I personally believe that the early stages of a relationship are when both men and women need to pay extra close attention to their partner’s behavior, before they invest too much of their priceless time and emotions. Everything about your email screams an extremely big jealousy issue on your man’s part. These are signs that deep down he has an insecurity problem that causes him to jump to conclusions and fly off the handle for no apparent reason. Keep in mind that if you’ve never given this man any reason to suspect you of cheating in the past then this could very well be the trimmer that precedes a major earthquake down the line. You truly need to sit this guy down again and reiterate where your priorities lie, and let him know that he’s not your husband, therefore family first! You can then remind him that none of this is new to him and that if he can’t trust you then he should move on because you are not the one for this shit. You have entirely too many headaches and responsibilities to be dealing with nonsense like that. By standing your ground and giving him an ultimatum you’re basically showing him that your world doesn’t revolve around him. If you stoop to his level and entertain this cramp you are just setting yourself up for a long list of other shit to come. Trust me, I understand all too well the time that’s demanded of a person when they are on a mission to achieve a better life for their family. Never put no one but God before that drive and determination, and above all else, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! God Bless! I've known this guy for a year and a half and we got really close. I met all his friends and girls and his first child's mother. But our secret was we were also sleeping together too. Well with us being so close I knew who he was sleeping with every night and he also knew the random guys that would sometimes pass thru my life. We were both going through a drought this December and was extremely lonely so we had some good ole unprotected sex, which resulted in my pregnancy. Javon64 First let me congratulate you on the new addition to the family. I’m finally old enough to understand that there are no such things as mistakes whenever babies are concerned. Everything, and I do mean everything, happens for a reason. Sometimes God’s sole purpose of placing a child in certain people’s lives is to provide a sign that it’s time for them to buckle down and change. You never know, with all the shit in the world today, doing so just might have saved their lives. A lot of men and women will be quick to tell you that if not for their children they don’t know where they would have ended up. Now with that said, let me answer your question. Having kids can be a scary thing, especially if the father doesn’t want to accept responsibility and be a part of that child’s life. It’s sad because that child didn’t ask to come into this world. I’ve always said that, regardless how much of a gentleman or how good a man is, the ultimate test of his manhood is how he acts when presented with the news that his girl is pregnant. This is nothing new. We’ve all heard of Prince Charmings turning into toads as soon as they were told that they might be having a baby. Some men have done such 360-degree turns that their women cannot believe they are capable of being so cruel and heartless. Me personally, I believe that adversity shows everyone’s true colors. Now I understand that this guy might be scared because he already has a 3 month old, but that the price he paid when he laid down. Whether he believes this kid is his or not isn’t the case—the case is what is he going to do if it does turn out to be his. Because if it does turn out to be his then he needs to pay child support. There’s nothing that says the two of you need to be together, but he does need to be a part of that child’s life. As for you salvaging the friendship—SALVAGE THE FRIENDSHIP FROM WHAT??? Sweetheart, you haven’t done anything wrong. After all of this is over and done with if he doesn’t want anything to do with you then nice knowing ya! Please understand that this situation that you are going through is showing you his true colors. If you don’t believe me just ask yourself this. What type of real friend would say what he said to you? If he was such a good guy he would at least take the blood test. P.S. All children deserve to have an active father in their lives, however this is life and sometimes it just doesn’t work like that. I was raised by my mother and grandmother, no father figure whatsoever, and they did just fine. You really got yourself a situation on your hands, my friend. On one hand you say that this woman you speak of is basically your soul mate, your everything—however for the two of you to truly be together she would have to walk away from her friends, family (everyone she cares deeply about) to be with you. Asking someone to walk away from their loved ones to become your property is a tough demand to put on anyone, regardless what type of lifestyle they may lead. While I’ve never fully entered into the whole Dom and Master world, I do have good friends that are deep into the lifestyle. Just from my observation, I do know that there is no middle ground for Masters such as you. You take your lifestyle choice very seriously, you eat, sleep and drink it daily, and expect nothing less from those that you collar and brand, am I correct? If you and this woman that you speak of are truly friends, lovers and fuck buddies, trust me she knows this, which is the reason that she knows she’s not ready for that type of commitment, yet. 32 years is an extremely long time to be the type of friends that the two of you are and still be so close. Although your situation is different from the typical relationships of other men and women (just in terms of the lifestyle) in a sense it’s still very much alike. Basically all you want to do is take things to the next level with this friend of yours…in other words attach a title. But you see, just like in traditional relationships, sometimes a title can destroy a perfectly good thing. Sometimes it’s just best to leave things the way they are for now and just let nature take its course. After all, she’s known all about how you get down for years, however that hasn’t come between what the two of you have. That could actually be a glimmer of something possible in the future. Although the big hindrance could very well be the walking away from her family and friends part. Love makes us do some crazy things in life, but that’s a choice I’m sure she’d rather not make. I Don't Want to Seem Like A Slut (New) Javon64 Sweetheart now is the perfect time to lay all your cards on the table. Why? Because you’ve only been dating this guy for one month and that’s hardly enough time for the wet cement around anyone’s feelings to dry up. Back when I was on the dating scene I use to tell women upfront how much of a freak I was and how much I loved sex. By being honest early in the relationship, before any real feelings are involved, it enables you the option of pulling out if you and that person aren’t compatible. To move forward in a relationship where you already knew the person had sexual hang-ups is nobody’s blame but your own. I understand that you’re a woman and in according to society women aren’t supposed to act that way, but I say BULLSHIT! Being a woman shouldn’t mean that you have to suppress your own sexual needs or keep secrets that aren’t ladylike. Bottom-line, if (when) you break this down to him if he labels you a slut then he’s certainly not the man for you. And if I were you I would make speaking my mind on this issue a priority so if need be you can make plans to get a replacement right away. Anything other than you putting your cards on the table is selling yourself short. Always remember that sex isn’t the sole reason most relationships fail—SECRETS are! It’s when you combine the two that you don’t have a chance in hell at happiness. P.S. If you notice I didn’t comment on the sex in the car. That’s because you already know what’s wrong with that picture. Something is certainly fishy if you guys have only had sex twice and both times were in the car. Honestly there shouldn’t be any questions running through your head because whatever question you have should have been addressed on this issue. Can you explain this to me? Recently, I saw some "thugs" beat up this girl really bad at a bar because she was gay (butch) and her girl (very pretty) wouldn't give the guys the time of day. But then I'm at the club and these two strippers come out one crawling with a leash around her neck held by the other women and they were nothing to write home about besides their obvious talents they looked a hot mess! But the guys didn't have a problem with that. And they were turning guys down too. What is the double standard here? We've been trying to figure this one out hard. Javon64 First off let me explain something. Those guys that you witnessed put their hands on that WOMAN (Butch or not she still doesn’t have a dick between her legs) weren’t thugs at all. They were punks!!! I grew up with thugs, and thugs…REAL THUGS believe it or not do have some morals and a code they live by. Baby girl, what you saw had nothing to do with those girls being gay and everything to do with male egos being bruised. Some men have no problem about beating up a butch female because in their eyes if she wants to be a man then she can take a hit from one. But again…a lot of this stems from jealousy. Ever noticed that nearly all butch chicks got fine ass women on their arms? The only men that have a problem with that are the ones that can’t get a woman that looks as fly. I don’t get it—if I were them I’d be trying to hang out with the butch chick and try to soak up some of her game, rather than sitting around hating. As for the strippers, and the reason they didn’t have a problem with them—that’s because they were strippers. Strippers basically get paid to act if you want to really get technical. A seasoned stripper is capable of making Suge Knight feel like he’s Tupac Shakur (God rest his soul) because that’s what they get paid to do. What that means is that a stripper…a good stripper can make my black ass think that she wants to marry me (lol That’s why I don’t do strip clubs). It’s really no big deal for a guy to get turned down in a strip club because if they ain’t got money like that they expect it anyway. Therefore the majority of the guys that you saw trying to hook up with those two strippers were just crossing their fingers. For the record stop basing this double standard theory off those two guys beating up that girl. While that sort of thing does occasionally happen, trust me when I say that it has more to do with the fucked up issues that the man has, and not the women being gay. How Long should a woman be willing to wait? Hey Javon, This is a very, very good question indeed, and to be perfectly honest there’s two answers to it. It all depends on the type of people we are dealing with. If we are talking about two people that are in control of their hormones (meaning that they have held off on having sex until they’ve gotten to know one another better) and are pretty much on the same wavelength mentally, then as soon as sex enters the picture it should be commitment time. Reason being is that if you’re talking about two adults that aren’t about playing games then neither of the two is going to be ok with the other sleeping around with different partners. For two people like this having sex is as good as signing your name on the dotted line of a commitment contract. Now you see that was the book answer I just gave you. The good thing about the book answer is that if more people would adhere to it there would be less mixed messages sent. The bad thing about the book answer is that 1 out of 5 people probably live by it. lol The second and probably most useful answer—being that we live in a society where it’s common to sex first and ask for a commitment later—depends on the woman. This all goes back to women and men being upfront and honest from the very beginning and finding out if the other person is even looking for something serious. I say this because more times than not you’ll see situations where a woman meets the man of her dreams, they date for year or more just for her to find out that he doesn’t want a relationship. Personally I think any woman that can go longer than 3-months without some acknowledgement that a relationship exists has the patience of a Wall Street investor. I say that because honestly after just 1-month (or sooner) the average man knows if he could see himself committed to a woman that he’s been dating. All that 6 and 7 month courting and hitting the skins is just an added bonus for him if the woman doesn’t have the courage to speak up. So to answer your question it’s best for women to be upfront in the very beginning about they’re expectations. Now this isn’t saying that they should sound like psychos, just that (if sex is involved) after 3 or 4 successful dates we all know if we can see ourselves with that other person. And believe me, unless it’s just an occasional booty call, men are the same way. My husband is jealous of my dildo? Dear J, I have a BIG problem that I would like your input on. I recently received that chocolate dream dildo that you reviewed on your website and have since fallen in love. Lucky for me hubby was at work when it came in the mail because I was able to test it without being interrupted…or so I thought. Turns out hubby came home earlier than usual and walked in on me playing with my new purchase. He already know I have other vibrators and doesn’t have a problem with that its just none are quite as big and thick as the new one. Any other man would have been glad to come home and find his wife masturbating, but not him. As he put it I must not be happy with his size if I went and bought a dildo like that. Javon I love my husband to death and tried to explain to him that no matter how big and good a dildo might be it will never replace the real thing but I can tell it bothers him. Is there anything you suggest because I’ll be damned if I get rid of it. T Dear T, Before I begin let me first thank you for showing the tremendous love and support by trying out my first review product. Also, I have many more coming up that you also might like (excuse the salesman in my blood lol). Anyway I wish you knew how freaking happy I am to hear that you are enjoying it. However, I sincerely never in a million years expected, or wanted it or any other toy I review to form a wedge between two happy people. Sex toys are for relationship enhancement and to make being single tolerable and safe. Although, after reading your email I must say that it seems to me that there was a problem long before the Chocolate Dream. Judging strictly from what I read it appears your husband has a complex or insecurity about the size of his Johnson. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard of guys feeling inferior to the size of their woman’s vibrator. Insecurities such as this can’t be blamed on the woman, unless she’s compounding the problem by nicknaming his member such names as Tiny or Pinky, which I’m sure you’re not doing. I bet you didn’t know that, if given the chance, roughly 4 out of 5 men say they would add another couple of inches. What that says is that deep down most men question if whether or not what they are working with is enough for their partners. So if you ask me the extra large dildos aren’t so much the problem as some men’s own confidence, and matter how much women try to convince them otherwise it won’t change. Sweetheart, what I think you and any other woman faced with this problem should do is invite your partner to join you. Some men (and women) need to be taught how to enjoy sex toys with their significant others. Your husband only feels the way he feels because in his mind it’s like you’re cheating on him. I know it sounds crazy but think about it. Although he may know about the other dildos, and say he’s ok with ‘em, walking in on you with a dildo that out measures his cock is like catching you in bed with another man. I don’t know what you guy’s sex life is like but it’s apparent he feels left out. I also think that he needs some reassurance that what he has is just enough for you, because his behavior indicates that he could be jealous of your other toys as well. It might also be wise to remind him that he had the same size package when the two of you first met and that you still married him. But keep in mind that insecurities such as the one your husband has doesn’t just disappear over night. Like any self-conscious short coming (no pun intended) a true cure can only be found inside ourselves. I really believe that if you show him how much fun sex toys can be when you enjoy them together it would help. And be sure to let him manually stimulate you with that new dildo especially, so he can see first hand just how much he and you together can benefit from it. God bless!
Sorry, I just think you have the best advice about stuff like this.
We have been friends for years and we have dated for about a year or so. We have been on and off relationships for a year or so. However, I told him I couldn't be in his life anymore if he was not in a relationship with me (not selfish just not to see him get hurt by someone else). Anywho, when I try to text him or something he does not respond like it's my fault or something. I don't know he never seems hurt by anything that I say or do.
Do you think he was making up excuses not to be with me. It always seemed like one after another. He says he loves and cares for me just could not be in a relationship with me for no reason.(or he would make up excuses)?
J.
Javon64
Two very good questions!
Question 1- Can family members that hate your mate...destroy ya'll relationship?
Alright here’s another situation.....MY MAN IS CHEAP!! lol. At first it didn’t brother me, because he was buying things for me bit by bit. But anything that’s...over $100, its a no no....or a "baby if ya want it...we'll go half on it". Females that got the man that'll buy them this n that or just any damn thang...I start to envy them. :-(...to the point of me asking myself" is this the type of man I want in my life"?!?! Or " are we going to last?" I don’t think I’m the only chic that loves a man to buy them clothes...pay their bills...Just have them living like their Donald Trumps wife. I think I’m starting to see that....THIS IS HOW I AM...AND THAT’S WHAT I WANT. It sucks cause...I’m attached to my boyfriend. But who knows....this may break us.
Question 2- Do any ladies out there have a man like that? that’s cheap? If so....how does the relationship go? Or how ‘DID’ it go…i.e. y’all are no longer together?
How about the ladies that get treated well...with gifts and all..is it really what it seems?
Javon64
Overcoming my inhibitions so I can lick my man's asshole?
Javon64
SO WHO'S RIGHT?!
Dear Javon,
I am a single mom, who works and goes to school full time! when I first started seeing this guy I made it very clear that on occasions I get extremely busy.... and was looking for someone who understood that I have a son and a mother( a retiree) who I care for ( financially) so " I bee on my grind" ya know! I’m all about making my money and taking care of home.....that’s where my responsibility lays!
Now just the other day I spent the evening with him... I cooked him and two other visiting family members dinner and I even spent the night ( something that is a big NO-NO for me, because him and I aren't married). The next day I spent the entire day in the salon........and doing various other errands and most of all spending time with my son.
when I returned home upon checking my answering machine....and listening to his multiple messages.....accusing me of cheating and playing games etc........
we argued......I was very upset because I made it clear to him that I was busy woman ....but I have made every effort to balance my time...between all my activities!
Should I feel guilty or is he being childish and selfish!?
PLEASE HELP!
Javon
When a one night stand produces a kid?
Okay I have a serious issue...
I just found out that I’m pregnant I’m extremely happy about it though but here is the problem.
Well he is in denial…well that is what I tell myself to try and make me feel better. However, the first thing out of his mouth was its not his child. I figured he is just scared because he already has a three month old right now. Well my issue is will I ever be able to salvage this friendship after all is said and done. Because even though I really do love and care for him my future child will always have to come first. And because he is acting this way now my family isn't going to want me to do the whole nine. Child support all that stuff. And all I want him to do is take a blood test to prove me right. Because I think my child deserves a father!
The Leather Master
You meet, become friends, go your separate ways, never stop writing, calling, or visiting. Through the years (32) you become soul mates in every shape and form except the different life styles. You are friends, lovers; fuck buddies, the others right arm and left leg, you are her left heart she holds the right, but can never be that soul partner because of your differences of your sex lives. You would give your life at any moment for this person.
I am a LEATHER MASTER. I LIVE my life style around my everyday life. I am old school. I want to collar and brand her ass with every drop of blood inside my soul. She would have to walk away from friends, family, everything in her life to be MINE. "Refuse anything less."
ANY ANSWERS????????????????????
Javon64
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Javon help me???
I just started dating a guy who I think is not into sex like I am. We have 1 month of us being together and we have only had sex 2 AND in the car. Like if I was a 15 yr old!
I have kind of told him about my sexual needs but now I don’t want to sound like a slut or mean. How can I talk about this with him? Or do you think he's just not into me?
Double Standard!
How's it going? I have a question that I'd like your perspective on. You can answer in your blog or newsletter.
How long should a woman be willing to wait for a guy she is dating to make a commitment and not want to see anyone else? If he doesn't bring it up, how should she proceed?
Looking forward to your answer.
Lucia
Javon64
